February 6, 2019
I work to end violence against women which often means it’s my job to call out the elephant in the room.
It seems that in some spaces, I am the elephant these days. So, Hi.
Read more: Walking the walk: My response to past #IdleNoMore comments
Maryam Monsef announced a potentially major change to Status of Women today and it's giving me feeeeeeelings.
We are living in the era of TMI, countless personal essays and first person narratives masquerading as news.
I don't think that's a bad thing. But it's definitely a thing.
And an unfortunate side effect of this new culture is that people assume that privacy = shame. If you're not talking about something publicly, it's because you're riddled with shame. If you're not joining the chorus of people saying #BeenRapedNeverReported or #MeToo, then you've either never experienced sexual violence or you are as sick as your secret. (We can thank AA for that one, too).
This is particularly troubling when you consider that sexual assault victims have notoriously bad boundaries.
Not a popular thing to say, but we gotta real talk about it because folks, I'm tiiiiiiiired.
First of all, fuck cancer. Fuck cancer right to hell.
Doctor Kate McInturff is (fuck your past tense) a national treasure. She hates that I call her that and said that it would send Nicholas Cage after her, but it’s true. She is incredible.
It’s hard for me to form a sentence let alone be articulate, but I really want you to know how amazing Kate is because she’d be the last person to tell you herself.
So, between sobs, here it goes:
I've been attending and organizing protests since late 2003. By 2007-2008, I was leading them.
That means I've spent a solid 15 years talking to the media.
In the last decade, I've averaged 100s of them a year.
Even though I originally applied to Carleton for journalism and media studies, I hated it and switched to Women's Studies and Canadian Studies.
I have zero formal media training. Zero.
But practice makes perfect and I've had a lot of practice.
And as any ballerina or stand-up comedian will tell you - making it look easy is a sign of being good at your job.
Unfortunately, we live in a culture that views visibility as currency. We think "paying people in exposure" is a legitimate form of payment and we think that every time we see someone in the media, that's a cheque in their pocket.
Nah, babe. Not even close.
This is what being a media source really entails:
Are you dealing with a PTSD diagnosis and a broke ass bank account?
I feel you.
Here are my best tips.
2K16 was such a garbage fire that it's taken me 10 whole days to muster the courage to revisit it.
Today is Canada's National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Womyn.
It happens on this date to commemorate December 6th, 1989 when 14 university womyn were murdered at school by a man who hated "feminists" and thought that his own rejection from the school was because womyn had taken his place in the STEM program.
Does this sound familiar?
Dear Margaret Atwood,
Maggie. Can I call you Maggie? We need to talk.
I'm so fucking discouraged.