The courage to trust womyn

It is a sign of a very sick society when the word 'courage' is used to describe a physician practicing medicine in the suburbs of Canada. But alas, nobody wore that badge more in this country than Dr Henry Morgentaler.

Morgentaler died yesterday at the ripe old age of 90, peacefully surrounded by his family and friends.

The man survived the Holocaust, came to Canada and faced rampant anti-Semitism. He was a physician and could have spent the rest of his life quietly practicing medicine in the suburbs of Montreal, raising a family and doing his thing. But instead, he was haunted by the amount of womyn who came to him seeking abortions. And the rest, as they say, is history. (For more details about Henry Morgentaler's life, check out this lengthy piece from the Globe&Mail)

I wish the battle for legal access to abortion was a historical one; something we would teach our children about and happily see them shake their head in confusion. But alas, we're still here, fighting the same damn fight we have for generations.

And the timing of Henry's death is haunting me.

The politics of wearing a yellow manteau

I have a thing for colour. I have been wearing bold colours for as long as I can remember. In fact, I distinctly remember how cool I felt on my first day of grade 6 when I showed wearing head-to-toe tie-dye. Damn, I was cool.

I have a special affinity for yellow (duh!) and may or may not own a dozen yellow coats, not to mention boots, dresses, shirts, skirts, pants, purses, accessories, you name it.

I want ALL of the yellow


Now that 'colour blocking' is an official trend, I feel a little less like a drunk clown, but I still 'stick out'. And it's that sticking out element of my wardrobe that has gotten me thinking about the politics of womyn's clothing.

Jaded but determined

When I was in the 6th grade, I had to write an essay on how I pictured my future. I wish I was kidding when I say that I wanted to be a famous author living alone with 10 cats.

Translation? I was both strange and in love with writing. I wrote short stories, poems, mock newspaper articles, you name it. I wasn't great, but I was prolific.

Once I grew up enough to be realistic about the pipedream that is wanting to be a 'famous author', I settled on journalism. I wanted to talk to people and tell their stories. On days when I felt particularly ambitious, I dreamed of being the next Oprah.

I originally went to university for journalism (Or J-School, as the cool kids call it) but fell in love with Canadian Studies and Women's Studies. Things looped back around, though, as I began my Master's in Canadian Studies in 2007.

And now, I'm stuck.

Notice how I began my MA in 2007 and I'm still not done? Ugh. What a fucking embarrassment, right? I know.

Now, I started the Coalition for a Carleton Sexual Assault Centre in 2007, too and my mother got sick and I got sick and had surgery and I had to work full time, then I got laid off, then worked full time again and on and on and on.

Am I busy? Heck yes.

Did the world deal me some shitty cards? Yup.

But another huge factor in this is how disillusioned I am with academia.

Rape is cancer

May is sexual assault awareness month. It’s April in the US, which seems odd, but whatever… In any case, it’s the time of the year when we’re supposed to be raising awareness about sexual assault.

 What the hell does that even mean?

 Does it mean dispelling the myths of all the bullshit ‘prevention tips’? Yes.

 Does it mean targeting boys and men to not only stop raping people but calling out other dudes who do? Yes.

Does it mean teaching everybody and anybody how to set the bar higher for society? Yes.

As a sexual assault support worker and an anti-violence activist, my views on the matter are clearly more ‘radical’ than others. Although I speak and work in many different forums that require different techniques and approaches, the truth is that all I really want to do is RAGE. Rage, rage, rage against the statistics, the bullshit policies and the apathy that I see around me every day.

It’s not healthy or wise to spend each moment of everyday telling people “Every 17 minutes in Ontario, a womyn is raped BUT that also means that every 17 minutes, a man is raping someone”. It doesn’t exactly make for great chit chat.

But what I really want to do and the message I want people to absorb is that rape is cancer.

Yes, rape is cancer. (Hear me out...)
 

It's Sexual Assault Awareness Month, yo!

Think rape culture sucks? So do I.

Think that survivors/victims of sexual violence deserve better? So do I.

Want to make a difference? You can!

Refuse to be silenced. Speak out when you see people making apologies for rape culture. Don't fall into the trap of referring to sexual violence as 'bullying' and don't let others get away with depoliticizing sexual violence, either.

Don't be an idle bystander. When you see sexual violence, do something about it.

Every day this month, Draw-the-line.ca's campaign will be throwing out a scenario of sexual violence and asking people where they would draw the line. Follow them on Twitter and on Facebook and show where you would draw the line. If you're on Twitter, tweet your answer with the hashtag #WDTL (Where to draw the line)

Here's today's question:

On the website right now, 58% of people would leave their friend behind. This is actually a huge improvement from just a few days ago when 75% of people would leave their friend. Clearly, there remains a lot of work to be done.

 

An open letter to victims of sexual assault

[This is kind of obvious, but trigger warning for discussions of sexual assault]

Dear Jane Does,

I hope this finds you well. Sadly, it probably doesn't. What a terrible few weeks, huh? Ugh. So horrible.

Why I'm pro-choice

I am Pro-Choice because…

 1- I think bodily autonomy is a human right. I think that the right to control what one does and does not do with their body is a human right that should be accorded to all people. I think that once we take away someone’s bodily autonomy, we are going down a very slippery slope and quite frankly, I don’t want to see where it leads.

 2- I think that pro-choice is the most democratic choice of all. As the old feminist adage goes, “If you can’t trust me with a choice, how can you trust me with a child?” I truly cannot understand how a democratic state/nation/territory/etc could have any other stance.

 3- I believe that pro-choice is not pro-abortion. I know and love people who got pregnant unexpectedly and thought long and hard about their choices. In the end, they either chose abortion or they chose to keep the child. They weighed the options of adoption and in one particular case, seriously explored that option. But in the end, they chose what was right for them. None of these womyn regret their decisions. And I imagine that even if they did, they would have been grateful for the ability to choose what was right for them, whether they felt the same way about that decision or not.

'Ballad of the female promoter'

So Jezebel has an article about the situation of womyn who are working to promote their work. Check it out.

This article means a great deal to me because I'm currently in this battle. To be a successful professional, you need to 'sell yourself' and learn to self-promote. But apparently, to be a 'good' feminist, doing that means you're in it for the wrong reasons, egotistical and other evil things.

How do we ensure that our issues get brought to the fore and are discussed in the mainstream when doing so puts us at risk of losing our 'cred' in the feminist bubble?

I'm a feminist, but...

I’m a feminist. (duh...)

But when I say ‘feminism’, I’m not talking about theorists or jargon (I’ll get back to those in a second…)

Why I SlutWalk(ed)

This blog post assumes that you know what SlutWalk is and what prompted it. If you don't know, Google that shit then come back and join me. It's been said all over the world over and over again, so I won't bother to repeat it.

So, Ottawa had its own SlutWalk and you better believe I was there. In fact, in the interest of full disclosure, I was asked to speak at it, too. But that's where it ends, for the record. I've never organized a SlutWalk, have no part in organizing future ones and quite frankly, spent 5 minutes at the Ottawa one talking about systemic violence against womyn.

I must admit that I was initially a little apprehensive about the whole thing. I'd heard about it in its planning stages and felt that it might have been a well-intentioned but misguided attempt to highlight an issue.

But I was wrong. I was so, so wrong.

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